I will begin by talking about when we are in some way offended by someone's remarks.Some of us will react differently like getting angry and returning back a harsh remarks, or you may react by closing yourself in shame or embarrassment. Some of you may be saying "but these are just words and they can bounce right off". But it's all depending on who is the one that is saying it to you. If is a stranger it may offend you but it will bounce right off. But if is someone that you care very much like a family member or someone close to you it may go beyond a simple offense. It will probably go deep inside of you and hurt you emotionally, and for that you may suffer it. So what will the solution be? You can probably begin by trying to explain the person who has offended you how it has made you feel. Hopefully if the person has some sense of understanding they were probably take it back. If unfortunately that person is unwilling or incapable of understanding then you must go to the next step. And that is you must find out how in what way was that particular statement offended you. How could some few words has hurt you that you are suffering?You may discover that you got offended not because of what they said, but it was that it went straight to your ego. You will probably be saying "Who do they think they are by saying that to me". Usually the great majority of the offense usually end up going to your ego more than your personality.
They are many different scenario, but let us pick one. Let us say that you happen to be not so very bright on some things and that person amplify as how ignorant you are. In order for you to overcome your pain and suffering you simply have to realize that we cannot know everything. But even have the intelligent that other may have. But if you look deep inside yourself you will find all the other good qualities you have,and that compared to others you will probably be considered a very smart and intelligent person. We all have some limitation so we can never satisfy all the people all the time. Do not find yourself in a situation in which you have to explain yourself to anyone all the other good qualities that you have. Just simply respond to the person for your mistake by saying "At least I made the effort to tried, it is far more better than not try at all". With a simple response people can at least appreciate in some way that you are trying.Once you begin to understand between your ego and your personality you will begin to realize how little an offense will affect you.
This that I'm saying is not a great discovery that I found. This in reality has been told by many people by many generation. But once in a while we all need to read it or hear it again,so that we may be reminded.Remember there is no single solution for every problem. I put in this article one kind of problem and one kind of solution. Every problem as a defends situation. What I AM trying to say is don't let your suffering set you back. Do not linger and prolong your suffering. Try to resolve your problem as quickly as possible. Keep it inside of you for long time does not help you in any way.
They are many different scenarios in regarding to the subject but I want to keep this short, I would touch the subject again in the near future.
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I hope in some way this may have help you in dealing with suffering.
Bless you all and be well.
