Making a happy home. (A)

   A special friend send me an email saying how to make a happy home. On this issue I will talk about how to bring happiness in your home but I would not discuss how to take away the problems. The reason for that is once you learn how to bring happiness into your home obviously the problem will eventually be resolved. Now first of all that you should know is that it is not necessary to be financially well off in order to bring prosperity and happiness in your home. Some people will probably answer by saying that wealth do not bring happiness but it does help. I would disagree with that because I've seen many cases on both side whether if you are wealthy or poor you was still not have happiness if you do not have the fundamental basic of some sort of unity.
   When I speak about unity it is not necessary have to be a family unity. It could be if you are in a university housing and you live with friends. Or if you live somewhere and you have roommate that share rent. What I define as unity is when there is a good number of people living together under one roof.
   On this issue I would talk about as a family unity. To begin with the must recognize that your home is a sanctuary. It does not have to be necessary a place of peace and quiet like a monastery. But instead of place of happiness and rejoice.

   When the morning began in your home you would spend a short time before everybody leaves whether to work or to school. But nevertheless you should take a moment as a group and be thankful for a new day. Now at the end of the day when everybody returns from work or from school, my suggestion would be before entering your home you should mentally invoked by saying "I now leave all of my troubles and problem of the day behind". You should never bring the problem from outside into your sanctuary.
   Now that you have entered into your home leaving all your daily problem behind, depending on the individual I would suggest at least watch your hand and face as a symbolic gesture for cleaning away all your problems. After doing all the things that you need to do and now your family gather together before dinner I would suggests that when you are together invoked by saying "once more we are United together". Remember I did mention that when you enter your house leave all your problems behind, but when you have children it will probably be a different situation. You should always ask your children how has the day been so you will be able to resolve any problem they may have. Children that keeps the problem bottled up inside will not create a happy home.
   When it's time for dinner depending upon your religion whichever a may be, that will be a perfect opportunity to make some sort of blessing so everyone in the family will now recognize that they are now in the little sanctuary of the happy home.

   Now the information I just gave you is just a little bit on the surface. The detail on how to solve your problems or what kind of blessing you should do at home, that is a detail in which you have to take care of yourself. Every family it different in many ways. But one thing is for sure that if you can find happiness in your home it will be like a cell in the body. It will begin your home and then your next-door neighbor home and then the community and then the nation.
 But for now just focus on your own home, eventually your home will reflect to others.

Hopefully I will go into more detail in a future, but this all I have to say for now.

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{Questions and answers}

   The reason I started this blog was not to get popular or get recognition. I started this blog only to share a little bit of my insight so it may benefit other as it has a benefit to me.
   First of all I would like to say that the things that I put on this blog are not of my own invention, nor it is my personal discovery before anybody else did. The things I have said on this blog some of you have already known this, but once in a while we all need to be reminded once more. To be inspired and bring back the faith and confidence that we have within our self.
   I started this blog in order for people to start a conversation with their friends or family. To renew our understanding and believes of what we have already known. And for those of you who are new to these concepts it is to wake up what is inside of you.Writing on the blog is not the same as talking to someone in person. As you will probably see I am not a great writer but I strive to put out what I'm trying to say in writing. When you're talking to somebody in person you will listen to the word that they are saying, but also you would pick up tone and sound that would give more definition and meaning to what they are trying to say. This is not the same as in writing.
   So do not think that I discover America for it has been here way before I did, just like the thoughts and philosophy that I talk about in this blog. One thing I have learned is that despite everything that we know sometime it is good to hear in a different angle of point of view. It is the same teaching a lesson that we already know but you probably we hear it in a different way that you have never heard it before.

    If there is an issue or a subject that you are thinking and would like me to to make an article about it, please feel free to let me know by sending me a message on the contact form below. Or simply go to this post of {questions and answers} and leave a comment here. When you do send me an email or a comment please do not sit around the computer waiting for me to give you an answer. For I am not always on the Internet, but as soon as I see your message I will answer them as quickly as possible.

   The important thing never stopped the conversation of things that will open your personal view or spiritual insight. Though I have nothing against anything about material things I believe the important things other things that you would take with you on your spiritual journey. These are the thing that no one can ever take away from you or you will be able to lose. These issues are for now and forever.

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What is truth? (B)

   In continuing from part (A) of what is the truth. I spoke before regarding to the subject in the form of a metaphor using a building. I put the information in a very superficial way. But now I would like to get into more detail of what I was trying to say.
   In my life and in the majority of other people live we all have some kind of foundation that has been influenced by our parent. The information I AM going to give you is based on personal experience and point of view, and some of you may or may not relate to this. Parents on the beginning teach us the different between right and wrong and what is moral and immoral. These are the beginning of what we are going to use that would give us the basic on what we think is true and false. But of course along the way in life you may choose to establish new foundation for what would be the core of your belief. Is very rare that someone would actually change the whole entire foundation because usually this is what make us who we are. But let us say for now that would keep our original foundation. Sometime in certain religion and philosophical Institute they recognize the foundation as something that we would bring from other reincarnation. But that will be totally up to you as how you want to view the basic foundation.

   And now we will  begin to construct the actual building in which they will be the way we view ourselves and the world. These will be the material that will make the building out of wood or concrete or even out of glass (concept, psychology, comprehension). Of course you can use of the material of your choose for a metaphor. The material for building this house it usually have some basic on religion, philosophical, ethical, psychological and scientific view. They may be other basic material but I will use these for now. With these material in which you have constructed your house there will be a place for your soul to live in (the I AM). Some of us may live on the same house for very long time thinking that if it works why change it. But sometime some of us may want to leave the house and explore a little bit to learn and see how other people and culture build their house (other ideas). Some of us may come back home and probably do some little changes around the house creating some new design (within ourselves).
   But of course some of these changes may or may not affect your foundation. But if in the beginning of your foundation if you lay it properly down you probably won't have any problem. Some of us may change the design of the house just to be rebellion and to go against what is considered to be traditional. I see that a lot nowadays. But with the invention of the World Wide Web, we are now able to view many different design (culture,ideas). But sometime when people start inventing things around the house putting up different materials and construction different design it may create an unstable house (false idea and concept and illusion). They may encounter some structure problem like leak and cracks that eventually would damage the house (your understanding). And in some cases it may even collapse certain part of the house (a low self-esteem, delusion, depression). People will start inventing things that they should first begin to get some ideas on whether the material or the design would give strength to the house.

  Hopefully by now you know that I'm talking about your point of view and ideas, but not literally the house I'm talking about.

   It is okay to be flexible when creating a design of your house, but be certain that changes tour any design may have a affect on the general structure of the house.

   I hope I was able to be a little bit more clear regarding to the metaphor. Sometime I like to use metaphor because it will show two different picture with one idea. This usually give a clear picture of what one is trying to say.

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What is truth? (A)

 


   There are many aspect to what it is believed to be the truth. Here's a small story which I know many of you have heard before in different ways.
   I AM going to make a short and quickly so don't worry if I did not write it in the correct way. There are three flies that see something in a distant. One fly decide to go over there and see what it is. When the first flight came back he describe it as something big flat and gray. The second fly the not believe him, so he decided to go a see it for himself. When he came back he said that you were not completely true. It was gray, but it was a long hose and below lots of air. That third fly did not believe any of the two, so he decided to go a sees it for himself. When he came back he said, both of you are wrong except for it was gray, but it was not flat nor was it a hose. But the truth was, that it was a long whip that almost knocked me out.
   All three of them saw the same thing but describe it differently. So who is telling the truth? The answer all three of them. The only different is that all three see the truth in a different position. And just in case you're wondering what it was, it was an elephant.

       And now I will tell you some a story using metaphor regarding to this subject. You will also see pictures of building designed by by Frank Lloyd Wright. There are different metaphor that I can use, but for now I will use building as an example. The actual building will represent everything that is true to you. Although not everybody may like the style of the house, but for you it is your truth. You should never impose upon other people how they should build a house, unless they asked for suggestion or some guide.

[The beginning of your life]

   In order to function in our live we have to have certain basic foundation. Usually these foundation of created on the very beginning of our life. If you have parents that also have very good foundation they will use their design as a guide for building our own foundation. And as you grow up you will build the house according to your personality, your taste, your ideas and your perspective. Also the construction of the house has to do with the environment and your surrounding. And remember although you live in a house it does not mean that you are part of the house, but is only a reflection of who you are.

[When you become a teenager]

   And when you reached to be a teenager you may then decide that you have now different use of life a new form of truth. You may like the foundation but the design of the house begins to go a transformation. Now you have other views of what is the truth. You will probably do some changes to one part of the house, but will use some of the material in the construction.

[When you become an adult]

   And now when you wish to be an adult you have lived and experienced many different things. And now you may decide to change the design of the house for now you have other views of what is the truth to you. Although you still have the basic foundation that you had since the beginning. Now you become a parent and you would use as a guide your design foundation to help your child laid his foundation.

[When you become an elder]

   And now when you wish to be an elder you have learned so much, experience so much and seen so many different things. Now the truth is taking a whole new form. And now you say that your whole entire house we need to be taken down to create a new and more complete design. You will take some of the materials that was use for the house including the foundation, to build a bigger and stronger foundation for your new house.Your child and other will see your design an example of what is the truth to you.



     I hope this metaphor was not as complicated as a may look like. Basically what I'm trying to tell you that your truth may not be necessarily other people truth. The house is a symbol of how you perceive your life to be true. The house can have different design, shape, material and color. Each part of the design will reflect a point of view that you have toward life.

[A bad foundation]

   Although other people may have a building that does not look sturdy it does not mean you should come and knock the building just because it does not fit your truth.They may live a happy and fruit full life. They may still be good material but place on the wrong way. They may have a lot of good truth though can come out of this building.

    That is all I have to say at this moment regarding to the subject. But I will touch the subject in the near future.


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Why have ethics? (B)

 
    Like I said in part (A) we have ethics to show respect toward others. On this article I would talk about it Pacific issue. And that is the freedom of speech and expression. Although without a doubt we had the freedom to express ourselves and what we think, that sometime we forget that Ethics goes hand in hand.

   Let me go quickly and show you an example. Here it is a small scenario. There is a man that sees a very beautiful woman. He feels very attractive to her. If he would follow his animal instinct and his sexual urge he will go up to the woman and will begin to grab her a kiss and so on. Obviously a great deal of you would know that this is unacceptable and disrespectful. But for this particular man he has no ethics and no moral principle rules. So he will follow his animal instant instead of his ethical understanding. He is not concerned in any way how she my feel,but he would just react on instant only.

   So you probably wondering what does this has to do with freedom of speech or expression. It is basically the same principle that we react by instant and not but understanding. It will be immoral and on ethical to go around and saying whatever comes to your mind. Because they could be a possibility that you may be insulting or showing disrespect to others.
   But starting from the 60s we have been declining of moral principle. This does not have to do nothing with being old-fashioned. Showing respect to others it is not a fashionable issue but a moral value. I believe you can express yourself without necessarily being insulted or destructive. Like in the example above you can see an situation that you may have a point of view and can express yourself without being abusive. And remember this is not happening only in the US but I am seeing this all over the world and in different society.

   Balance is the secret to everything that you do in your life. Once we lose the balance we will become toward one side of expression and that would be considered as a destructive radical person. But basically I have been seeing our Constitution being raped in a destructive way. I know is a strong statement but if you look around you understand what I'm saying.

   I hope I was able to show the importance of freedom of speech and expression without offending anyone.

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Why are we special? (A)

   I know we all tried to make a mark and make an impression in our society to show how special we are. And there is nothing wrong with that. It show that you have initiative and a good self-esteem. But it only becomes a problem when it consumed a great deal of your time to impress someone. When you become agitated and would not stop until you fulfill your desire to show anyone how special you are. That is when it becomes a problem.
  You should never find yourself in a situation in which you have to try so hard to convince or show anyone how special and unique your are. Because the truth is that if anyone wants to see how special you are they can see right through you. It will reflect on your behavior and your personality. But if anyone does not see your true self, no matter what you do they will be unwilling to see it.

  You have to be willing to see yourself by going above and beyond your limitation and go within yourself and be convinced of your true nature is. It is easy said then being done. But it is not impossible. It does not required a special meditation or even to invoke a special phrase. It does not require a special place or particular time. But it is simply to see yourself how you take action in different situation. To see yourself how you react when someone criticize something about you and how that makes you feel. It is to see how you believe in things and the way you think and understand in certain things.
  Once you begin to see these things you should begin to break them down by little pieces. See what that thing means to you and why. Don't be surprised if you discover that inside of you there is something much more than yourself. Obviously it is a reflection of yourself.But you will probably begin to realize that it is the reflection of the creator. It is like if you would see yourself in a mirror but that reflection is a little bit more. It is a little bit different from what you see of yourself.
  This is something that would not happen overnight but only with time. And you probably asking "how long will that be"? And the answer will be, for as long as it take.

   Sometime people want proof whether or not there is such thing as a creator. I do not have proof of evidence that I can show to anybody whether or not there is a creator. It is like this example I use sometime, and that is I do not have to eat dirt to know that I should not eat dirt. It is simply something that you learn from observation and from listening and from feeling.

   At the end all comes down to it, it is your own decision. Everything that you do in your life will reflect based on your action. It is the law of cause and effect. If you want to see why you are special you must look for the cause that move your life and soon you we see the effect it will have on your life.

   That is all I have to say at this time but I will touch the subject in the near future.

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Should I get married? (B)

   In continuing from part (A) I would talk about on this issue what happened if it to decide to get married. Without a doubt will set yourself on a new life to be with the one that you truly love. You will begin to embark on a wonderful and exciting new world. Like everything in life there will be great moments and they will be not so great moments. There will be new sets of rules and conduct that you will have to learn. There will be sets of balance between two people in which they were struggle together in their life. There will be rules of ethics of moral values that a couple must have. There will be moments in which they will share each other suffering but together they would deal with it and overcome it. All of these have too much detail to go into it now for each couple of different and unique and the own way. This is something that they must learned together.

  What I would like to talk about is the responsibility that you would have to take when you have a child. Not to rain on anyone parade but usually people fail to think before they take action. Sometime will push to a situation because everyone expect you to do. Your family tells you that you must have a child, society to tell you you must have a child because it is suspected of you. You must be truly honest with yourself and look deep inside. And am I ready and capable of raising a child?
  People believe that if you do not have a child that you are not a complete person. And that is far from the truth. You cannot be thinking about yourself only. You must be thinking also about the child that you will bring in to this world. Usually one of the big mistake the couple does is that when they can no longer handle the situation the easy way out is simply a divorce. Unfortunately the has become a very fashionable thing in today society lately. At the end the one that were get hurt the most will be the child.

   One of the big false that humanity has is that they will make decision based on emotion and passion rather than taking the moment to think it through. It has always been a good philosophy that we always learn from our mistake. But on this case a mistake can cost dearly to another person. There is really nothing here to learn but only go to a unnecessary suffering.

   The other day I was talking to a family member thinking of all the wonderful moment and not so wonderful moment that I had were my family. I have been lucky to been raised by two parents. Like everything in life there have been that ups and down. But at least my parents took on the responsibility and dealing with the situation as they came about. But others have gone through some part of the life without one of the parents. It doesn't mean that it was the end of the their life, but it would have been better if they were together.

  This is all I have to say at this moment but I may touch this issue again in the near future.

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Should I get married? (A)

   When should I get married? That is something people always ask to themselves. First let's take a look at what are some of the principal of marriage. Since ancient time people used to get married for the reason of uniting two family that may have something in common like wealth,property, become a citizen of a country or tribe or even because of their title. Even today we still do the same as ancient time but now people do it to even have a tax benefit . These are not definitely not because of love.
 
  People also have the wrong concept that they think that marriage is the ultimate symbol of love. When in reality the ultimate symbol of love is respecting one another for who they are. Sometime they meet someone absolutely wonderful, but as time goes by they would see some few little false that they have. So they think to themselves that one day when we get married I will change some of their false. This is not ultimate love.

  The real purpose and function of marriage is to propagate and become a teacher. That is why that not everyone is ready to become married. This does not mean that you are not man enough or woman enough to take on the responsibility of raising a child. Remember not everybody is born to be able to do everything. And it also does not mean that you are not capable of carrying or loving a child. I'm not trying to complicate that raising a child is complicated. But it does require to have some level of psychology in order to deal with the emotional aspect, a teacher to guide them through their mental understanding, and a spiritual person to guide them through the spiritual aspect. We are all not born with a guidebook to teach ourselves this balance.

  What make us different between the animal kingdom and the human kingdom is that we should not raise our children as wild animal that they should learned along the way. You should be able to be prepared to guide them through each step of the life. As much as we would like to be a parent not everybody has the understanding or the patient to do so. We should have the responsibility to know if you have the skill or not. A lot of you may think this is simple and easy. But you would be surprised how many people have made the wrong assumption.

  That's all I have to say at this moment but I will continue this on part (B).

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Why do we suffer? (C)

   I will speak about this subject in a general sense. In my personal experience I had never met anyone that have not suffer from one kind of a crisis or another. In general we all have to suffer in one situation or another, but I do not believe that we should not in any way measured between our suffering and someone else suffering. Because this in reality depending on the individual level of understanding or personal foundation. While someone may see your suffering not as greater as others, it does not mean that is true. It is hard to understand this basically because we do not know the life that the other person have went through.

  I would try to give you an example. Let us say that two different people in different places had a car accident. Person A might say "this is terrible, but at least the car it just a material thing". While person B might say "oh my goodness, what will I do now". While person A may have a positive outlook, it is because that person have another car. While person B does not have another car and it will find it very difficult to go to his job or get around. Both A and B are suffering because the car was a wreck, but one has a solution while the other one does not. Although I know that I can give you a better example but I just want to show you one and keep it short. My point is you should never measure your suffering against others. Because you just never known was behind the life of other person suffering.

  I have also seen that when someone have suffer a great crisis ,after a while they would emerge by being a stronger person or stronger in spiritual. I have also seen that even doing a very tough crisis humanity has a unique quality that will bring them closer and united together. Sometime when people suffer it will brings family more united or friend more united or even community more united. I have heard of people who always come to there home from work and never known the next the neighbor. And then when 9/11 occurred people began to look for there neighbors for comfort and give strength to one a other. And now after 9/11 people have been more interacted with the neighbor than before. Before 9/11 people had their religious background but never had the time to go to the religious temple or even pray. And now after 9/11 the religious Institute across the United States that there membership have grown 4 time and people now find themselves praying just a little bit more often. If you ever asked someone what have been the most suffering situation in the life, and what has come out of it. You will probably hear more often of a positive point of view or attitude.

  I am not saying in any way that we should seek out something that should make us suffer in order to find a good benefit. Obviously you should avoid finding yourself in any tough crisis. But when it does happen beyond your control, at first you will suffer a great deal but you must find strength within yourself to overcome it and go on. I know it is easy said then done. But that is one special and unique quality that we all have. That when we are at our worst we always find triumphant.

  That is all I have to say on the subject for now but I will touch it in the near future.

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Why do we suffer? (B)

  In continuing from part A in regarding to the emotional aspect.

  We all in one time or another have felt offended by other of what they have said. We can all be easily be offended by a statement or remarked. Obviously you all know that we should not be offended so easily. But we do and before we react we should be able to think before we go on. You do not want to find yourself in a situation that because of someone's else remarked you will put yourself in a position that you will regret it.

  Before that time ever happen a small suggestion that you should do. You should build a good self-esteem foundation. This is an important tool in dealing with our daily suffering. First find a piece of paper or a notebook and write down all the good quality that you have no matter how small it is. Put down your skills, knowledge, abilities, talent that you may have. When you are done and finish , despise everything that you put on the list that is very important you should put one last item that is far more important. That you as a soul are a piece of everything that is great in this great universe. With that said, you should be able to confront and deal with your daily suffering for whenever they may be.

  Despise of whatever limitation you may have you can rest assure that within yourself there is no limitation. When you find this and believe in yourself ,very little will affect you in any emotional suffering.
 You must also realize that sometimes life is like a bus stop, it is only a matter of time when the bus of life will take you to a greater moment in your life. And if you are in the bus of life and something terrible occurred just remember that you will be getting off the bus sooner or later. I hope you like this metaphor.

   Finding the right balance between your personality, your ego and your self-esteem is very trickery. One way to begin in learning how to balance all of these aspect you should look for inspirational quote and philosophy from different sources. This will inspire you and help you grow internally. This will help you begin to establish a good foundation within yourself. You're probably wondering why make so much effort in focusing within yourself when the problem lies within other people. It is they do have offended you to begin with. That is true but like I explained in part (A) when other people are unwilling to understand how it has made you feel. You must then focus within yourself in order to deal with the situation. It has always been said that before you change the world the much changed within yourself.

  That is all I have to say at this moment but I will touch the subject again in the near future.

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Why do we suffer? (A)

   I will be hitting at a very difficult subject for we all suffer in different ways. They are many different kind of suffering like physical, emotional, mental and spiritual. On this issue I'm going to reflect on the emotional aspect.

   I will begin by talking about when we are in some way offended by someone's remarks.Some of us will react differently like getting angry and returning back a harsh remarks, or you may react by closing yourself in shame or embarrassment. Some of you may be saying "but these are just words and they can bounce right off". But it's all depending on who is the one that is saying it to you. If is a stranger it may offend you but it will bounce right off. But if is someone that you care very much like a family member or someone close to you it may go beyond a simple offense. It will probably go deep inside of you and hurt you emotionally, and for that you may suffer it. So what will the solution be? You can probably begin by trying to explain the person who has offended you how it has made you feel. Hopefully if the person has some sense of understanding they were probably take it back. If unfortunately that person is unwilling or incapable of understanding then you must go to the next step. And that is you must find out how in what way was that particular statement offended you. How could some few words has hurt you that you are suffering?You may discover that you got offended not because of what they said, but it was that it went straight to your ego. You will probably be saying "Who do they think they are by saying that to me". Usually the great majority of the offense usually end up going to your ego more than your personality.

   They are many different scenario, but let us pick one. Let us say that you happen to be not so very bright on some things and that person amplify as how ignorant you are. In order for you to overcome your pain and suffering you simply have to realize that we cannot know everything. But even have the intelligent that other may have. But if you look deep inside yourself you will find all the other good qualities you have,and that compared to others you will probably be considered a very smart and intelligent person. We all have some limitation so we can never satisfy all the people all the time. Do not find yourself in a situation in which you have to explain yourself to anyone all the other good qualities that you have. Just simply respond to the person for your mistake by saying "At least I made the effort to tried, it is far more better than not try at all". With a simple response people can at least appreciate in some way that you are trying.Once you begin to understand between your ego and your personality you will begin to realize how little an offense will affect you.

   This that I'm saying is not a great discovery that I found. This in reality has been told by many people by many generation. But once in a while we all need to read it or hear it again,so that we may be reminded.Remember there is no single solution for every problem. I put in this article one kind of problem and one kind of solution. Every problem as a defends situation. What I AM trying to say is don't let your suffering set you back. Do not linger and prolong your suffering. Try to resolve your problem as quickly as possible. Keep it inside of you for long time does not help you in any way.   

   They are many different scenarios in regarding to the subject but I want to keep this short, I would touch the subject again in the near future.

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Why have Ethics? (A)

   This is a very tough subject, the reason for that it is as sensitive as religion. Why is it that is it a sensitive subject? Because it has to do with certain moral principles that we have and that we would like others to have too. The only problem is everybody has its own set of rules of moral principles. Nobody would like to impose other people moral principle against theirs. So we kind of have to play a game of compromise. You should respect mind and I will respect yours. But sometime just like in religion people. Other's take advantage of other people who have ethics to make you tolerate their rudeness.

   Like for example. Somebody would say something insulting to another person knowing that that person have ethics, and would have to tolerate such rudeness and be a gentleman. Here's another good example that has happened a lot in our society. When somebody is at a restaurant or in a theater or somewhere public, or that requires a little bit of silent. They would be talking on the cell phone so everyone can hear them. You be surprised that a lot of people do not consider this to being rude or annoying, but it is. And here's another issue regarding to the cell phone. In a beauty salon somebody will be on the cell phone and at the same time cutting someone's hair. People do not realize that you're showing disrespect to the person you cutting their hair. How is that? The reason is that you are showing that you are ignoring that person that you are attending. Is making the person feel like their head is a plastic head for you to be working on. Instead of giving you your full attention to that person.

{I can go on with many different example but it would take up the whole entire blog. I would touch this issue more in the near future.}

What is ethics?
  Ethics is a group of moral principle rules. We have these rules in order for us to keep ourselves civilized. These rules not only defined us but also who we are and what are our principles. They keep us from being insulting or destructive. It teaches us how to care for one another even though we may not agree with others. It even show us the different between good and evil, right and wrong.

   Funny though, not everybody like to follow all of the ethics rule for they are complicated and require an effort upon the individual. Sometime people are too lazy or are just too bitter to make the effort. But nevertheless we should at least try to make some effort. This will help us become a better person,a better society and a better nation.

   My point in this subject that we all should learn some ethical rules to show that we can respect one another in a civilized way.

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Why we struggle? (A)

   This word may have different meaning for different situation. On this topic I will used the word struggle in the sense of "attitude". The reason I want to get into this topic is that I have been seeing for the last couple years a decline in people showing a good attitude towards struggle. Instead I have been hearing people saying many time "why even bother" or "they are all the same" or even "everyone does it". These kind of phrases do not help others in the pursuit to have a good attitude toward a struggle. Oh wait, here's another one "when you reach to my age". I do not believe that anyone should wait for many years to see whether the struggle is worth it or not. When you spread these kind of phrases around, you are taking away the opportunity for other to carry on the torch of hope. But instead people are taking their own torch of light and after running for many years they decided to just throw it in the water. These kind of phrases only help other people that promote anti-religion,anti-social, anti-capitalist or anti-government.  Or any other issue that may help people grow.

I do understand that a lot of us struggle for many years and sometime be seems pointless. It seems like your struggle is not taking any affect. But that is far from the truth. Every little action that you take to ensure that other may pursue a better life. It is not wasted at all. If you are able to show only one person out of 100 that life is worth struggling that one person might one day save themselves or the world. You just never know.

   Imagine if your farmer live in Florida and say "why even bother to plant a tree if one day a hurricane can come and knock everything down". If that would've been the attitude of a farmer we would not have any orange juice anywhere. If a teacher see one student that is unwilling to learn and decided to say "they are all the same they would never learn". We will probably have a lot of people that would be ignorant.
  Just because you were unable to see the fruit of your struggle it does not mean that the struggle itself is not worthy to pursuit.

Just because they are some few rotten apple it does not mean all the apple will be rotten. 

Just because they are some few religious leader that are sinners it does not mean all the religious leaders are sinners.

Just because there are a few dishonest politician it does not mean all of them are dishonest.

Just because there are few unprofessional police officer it does not mean that they all unprofessional.

And so on.

   There will be people out there that would like you to believe that all religious leader are evil and all politician are crooks and all police officer are bad people. These are the kind of people that other look for who seems to be losing faith in their struggle. They were use these people for their own personal agenda of destruction. They were use these people to promote hatred and anti-religion and anti-government. So if you can show others how you are able to confront and deal with the struggle you are passing on to them, the torch that will light their way in the time of darkness.

I AM stoping for now and would take this topic again in the future.

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Finding the right balance. (A)

  You will see throughout your life that when making a decision you will always find yourself looking for some sort of balance. It is essential that you do this because your action today will reflect what will become tomorrow of your future. Sometime to impress others and to save time we make an irrational decision without thinking about the cause and effect. Of course there is no such thing as a perfect decision. But you must always think through of what ever you're going to do. Whether it will be a business decision, a relationship decision, a family decision or even a spiritual decision. Sometimes you may not even be conscious of it but you will be making a decision based on some sort of balance. You probably asking yourself, why am I talking about balance. While it is simple, we are always trying to make a decision that would have a positive outcome. But believe it or not sometime we have to make a negative decision to have a positive outcome.

Let me give you one small sample "the truth". This word plays an important role in our daily life. It is something we are always looking for and is also something we would like to always say. An example, in my own personal opinion I believe in order to have a healthy body being vegetarian plays an important role in your health. But you will know that not everybody would agree with that statement. So how will I go about in interacting with people on a daily basis who may not be vegetarian. While this is where balance come in. Although I believe it is true that vegetarian may be better for you, it is not necessarily has to be the truth for others.
 First you must find respect tour other people who do not have the same view that you have. You should not go around forcing people to see your particular view no matter how you feel or even though you believe that it would help them.Sometime people are happy and fulfilled just as they are.

{I AM not going to get into the subject in this article as to why I feel the vegetarian will be better for you. I would leave that for another time when I will talk about this subject.}

 But for now I must find balance as to when it is called for to tell someone why vegetarian is a good idea. Although I have lot of friends that are not vegetarian that does not mean in any way that they are unable or incapable of being a kind and decent human being. I must always think how other may feel. Again, like I said looking for balance.

 So I must restrain myself from telling people the important of being vegetarian even though they might help them in the long run. I know that sounds negative. But I always believe there is a right time and the right place for everything. If I go around imposing upon other people that vegetarian is a great thing, I will find the situation that people instead of recognizing the issue they made go against the issue. So the best thing I can do is try to be a good example when I AM around with friends that they see me eating vegetarian food. I will then wait until they ask me why I AM vegetarian. Then at that time the issue will be open for discussion.By finding the balance you can solve many issues and situation that may come your way in your life.

Well that's all I have to say for now in regarding the balance and the truth. I would touch the subject again in the near future.


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Introduction Part 2

 

    Basically what I AM having plan to post are spiritual and philosophical in nature. Those are basically issues that moves me the most. They are some of my life experience in spiritual development and philosophy. I AM not going to pretend that I am an expert in any religion or philosophy concept. They are simple thoughts that I have and would like to share them with others. Remember you can be two kind of people, one a teacher when you talk and two a student when you listen. I AM also going to post issues that I have some knowledge and skills and some interests that I have.

Sometime some of these articles may contain one or two or more issues of the same subject. If you have some topics that you would like me to address please send me your interest at the (contact form) on the bottom of this blogger page.

 All I ask when posting a comment to keep it clean and pithy. Also let us keep dirty insinuation out. I understand that sometime you would like to express anger or your hate. But let us keep it civilized.

Thank you.
Roland Oliva

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Introduction Part 1

 

    The reason I AM started this blog is not to show off or to impress anyone. It is an opportunity to share with other my thoughts in hope that it may give them a little bit illumination or understanding about many different issues.
 This will also give me an opportunity to collect my thoughts without the interruption of my thought process. Sometime we all get inspiration from something within us and need to share with other people. But like it has happened to me and I know that it has happened to other, that when one begins to express themselves somebody will also get inspire and jump in the middle of you thought. It is not that they are bad people or disrespectful. It is just that when you begin to say something inspiring that move you and touch others, they to also get inspire and would like to share their thought with you. But unknowingly they cut the moment of inspiration you have, and sometime usually it is hard to go back on your thoughts.

I hope that what little wisdom I may bring to you that in May inspire you to grow just as I AM too growing.

Thank You
Roland Oliva

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